SENG-Model Parent Support Group Week 4
Peer Rela tionships & Sibling Relationships
Chapters 8 & 9
Guiding the Gifted Child by Webb, Meckstroth and Tolan
Peer Relationships
Who are peers? Peers in what area? Several different peer groups are often needed Many friends or few? How many real friends do we have as adults? Special friendships are often intense Bright children have high expectations; may lack tolerance for others Leadership or bossiness? Teaching leadership skills Use role-playing to enhance understanding Time alone versus time with others; eminence requires time alone Is time a lone by choice or due to lack of skills? Peer pressure at different ages (including peer pressure on adults) Self-directedness and self-confidence help one withstand peer pressure
Sibling Relationships/Rivalry
Kids rival for something, usually attention Importance of birth order (oldest, youngest, middle) roles Children adopt characteristic roles, seldom compete Important to help children expand their roles and to promote role overlap “Either/or” concepts of giftedness; “if he is, I’m not;” negative comparisons Competition/rivaling versus sibling synergy Parents remove themselves from squabbles Take the “sail out of the wind”
Handouts
1. Introversion: The often forgotten factor impacting the gifted by Jill Burrus & Lisa Kaenzig (www.SENGifted.org)
2. Developmental phases of social development by Linda Silverman (www.SENGifted.org)
3. “Play Partner” or “Sure Shelter”: What gifted children look for in friendship by Miraca Gross ( www.SENGifted.org )
4. Gifted and Non-Gifted Siblings by Nancy M. Robinson, PhD (Duke Gifted Letter)
5. Tips for Reducing Sibling Rivalry by Sylvia Rimm, PhD
Serving Granite School District
